No Pressure

“Be nice, be the bigger person.” “Stand your ground, don’t let them walk all over you.” 

“Speak up when someone hurts you.” “Don’t talk back.” 

“Violence is never the answer.” “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” 

“You can’t control others’ actions.” “Be proactive, one bad apple spoils the bunch.” 

“Don’t bottle it up.” “You’re so emotional, calm down!”
“Be kind to yourself” “Don’t blame others”
“Pick your battles.” “Don’t be complacent.”
“Stand up for yourself!” “Sit down.”
“Speak up!” “Stop whining.”

“You’re just a kid, you don’t know anything!” “Kids these days are so weak-willed.“

Be the bigger person. Be small.
Stand strong. Don’t be stubborn.
Say something- shut up.
Some people will hurt you.
Be decisive. Be quiet.

I don’t understand…. 

Be nice. Be kind. See the good in everyone. Everyone else is good, everyone else is doing it right. To say they aren’t would be putting the blame on them. Take responsibility. 

Some people will hurt you. Some people are allowed to hurt you. That’s ok. It’s probably your….  

Don’t bottle it up, say something! But not in the moment. Not to other people. That’d be rude. These thoughts are wrong. And because you are having them, you are wrong. Don’t bottle them up. Don’t say them where others might hear them. 

If you are to direct them anywhere, direct them at yourself. Nobody gets hurt if the only person who hears is your reflection. Broken glass might cut the person who broke it, but some people are allowed to hurt you. It’s ok, now you have a reason. Now you have something to cry about. 

Be the bigger person when it’s obvious that someone else is in the wrong. But if you can’t tell who is, it’s probably you. To assume otherwise would be amoral. 

Only speak up when it’s black and white. Even then, someone will tell you it isn’t. Are they wrong or are you? It would be wrong to put the blame on someone else.

What’s wrong? Why aren’t you saying anything? Stop whining. Speak up!

Speak up and let others yell at you. Shut up and don’t back down. Don’t blame them, look at yourself. Don’t bottle it up. Just be quiet. Choose happiness! Everything is fine!

No pressure.